When our Motivation to Please others is contrary to our own souls requirements for our growth, we lose integrity with ourselves and the world around us.
And in our action aimed at pleasing others, we end up....rather than giving them what they really need...
.simply giving them something that maintains a status quo that may be quite counter productive.
And at the same time denying our own truth..
When we are not in our integrity...
.because we are so concerned that others "like us",
then Only an illusion of comfort exists.
I'd be willing to bet that aside from diet issues, most of mankind's "mental" issues such as depression and anxiety exist because we are not acting within our integrity.
A healthy state of mind and body can only really exist when we are living in accordance with our hearts and souls.
When we live for the satisfaction of others
, and when this means acting out of alignment with our own souls....
It's a lose lose situation,
even for those who live in an illusory comfort of pretense.